| Are you a Yearner?
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| Do you find yourself attracted to partners
who tend to be emotionally unavailable? |
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| When in an intimate relationship, do you
find yourself pursuing your partner's attention
and trying to earn the other's love? |
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| Are you quick to attach to people? |
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| Do you tend to become emotionally OVERinvolved,
feeling that your relationship is the MOST
important thing in your life? |
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| Do you find yourself giving up more and
more of what's important to you in order
to focus on your partner's needs? |
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| Do you need other's approval to feel good
about yourself? |
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| Do you make excuses for and justify your
partner's selfishness? |
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| Do you tend to blend, comply and adaptively
say "YES," not to make waves? |
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| Do you feel like you are not heard or
taken seriously? |
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Do you become less focused and therefore
less effective on the job or in your career
when you become involved?
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| Do you find yourself talking about your
partner and your relationship (good or bad)
with whomever will listen? |
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| Do you remain insecure in your relationship
no matter how long you and your partner
have been together? |
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| Are you afraid that your partner will
abandon you if you do something wrong? |
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| Once you know that your relationship is
not healthy for you, does it take a long
time, with a lot of "break-ups and
coming back together's" until it finally
ends? |
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| Are you a Protector?
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| As your partner
attempts to get closer to you, do you feel
guarded, threatened or trapped? |
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| When your relationship gets too close
or too confrontational, do you tend to quickly
pull away and withdraw or angrily push away
in order to get space? |
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| Do you think your partner is too needy
and overly emotional and the one with the
problems? |
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| Do you feel that you can't rely on your
partner, only on yourself? |
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| Do you find yourself blocking affection
by becoming hyperrational and detached? |
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| Do outside activities such as work, friends,
hobbies keep you very busy and under-involved
in your relationship? |
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| Do you find it difficult to be emotionally
present and spontaneous? |
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| When it comes to plans, are you a last
minute kind of person? |
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| Do you feel suffocated in relationships? |
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| Do you feel pressured or resentful when
you 'should' or 'have to' give? |
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| Do you dislike being told what to do? |
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| Do you have trouble making decisions or
do you make unilateral decisions? |
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